Very valuable post and your a good writer man.
This same subject has been noted and being discussed, and it wouldn't hurt to become more friendly community towards each other again (good old times, KRD made an awesome post about it)
Most working idea I see is the one Tuomatz suggested, theres a good few of us who see the trouble explaining newbs what's going on (depends on my mood sometimes though), especially franz is very friendly towards newbies.
How about we all try our best to be more friendly with the newbs, if they aint willing to talk (most aint), then there's not much to do really.
I don't want to discuss our future plans of how we plan to become more newb-friendly just yet because the main plan ain't finished yet but for example simply adding "Newbie" channel to worms lobby, with bot explaining how to get rules (!rules X scheme) would already be a step for right direction which should be easily implemented, right?