Skunk, just wondering, if you accept that BnG should be played for the win, why do you complain so much about people not respecting ABL in Worms WMD? In my experience those 'gentleman' rules are only followed when playing with friends, and usually it makes the game more boring and take longer. I do agree that the only logical thing for BnG is to get rid of all the rules requiring style, honor, variation, etc.
The problem with notching is that people have aides. There is a massive aides epidemic in the BnG'ing community. They just hold their guide up to the screen, count the required number of arrow taps, and hold the space bar full power. I don't think it requires much skill to win unless you're up against another expert notcher.