So far, you’ve only heard from me. What about from her?
Because the question is why does she do such inhuman things to me and why do people like you defend it? You’ve only heard from me so far, but what about her silence? Does it say more? Why not simply ask her why she makes a close friend suffer for so many years? Why is she sadistic to me? And you could also ask if I ever did her any evil. I know you won’t find anything. This is why you should have a good look first to know which side you defend.

I'd like to offer a different perspective. If we assume you're right, and if she's indeed an awful person, why do you still want her in your life? Why spend even a min of your life with such a person?

Whether she is a good person or a bad person, I don't think forcing her to talk to you will solve your problem. If she is a bad person, you should not want someone like her in your life and instead you should focus your time and energy on the good people who are (or will be) in your life. If she is a good person, for the sake of all the good memories you have with her, respect her wishes to not wanting to talk to you. If you still insist that the only solution is to get her to talk to you, then I'm sorry, but there is nothing we can really do for you. As Hippocrates once said: Before you heal someone, ask him if he’s willing to give up the things that make him sick.

Quote from: Albus on Yesterday at 06:38 PM

Hi FMA. I'm sorry you're going through this. I would like to help but I feel incapable, because these situations can be complex. I'm Brazilian too and I can recommend a therapist that I know, who is extremely competent, and who is not that expensive. I strongly recommend that you get help from a professional.

Hi Albus. Thank you, but a therapist won’t work for me as they can’t recover my life interests. If you want to help, you could try getting in contact with Anita, but I’m not sure if it’s going to work with you since you didn’t get to meet her as far as I know.

Yes, you're right. They cannot recover your interest in life. Only you can. But they can provide guidance on how you can recover this in other ways that don't involve this girl. Imagine one thing: if she dies? What would become of your life? You need go on right? We cannot depend on anyone like that. You came here to ask for help. You were right on one point and wrong on two others. You were right to recognize that you are in a situation that requires help from a third person. But you're wrong about two other things: you're wrong in thinking that what you're asking for will help you, and you're wrong in thinking that this is the most appropriate place for you to fully recover from this situation. The people here can only help you to a certain extent. However, only a professional can know you in depth enough over several sessions (your past etc.) to offer the most appropriate support. The only thing I tell you is to reconsider your refusal to seek help from a professional. If you want, you can contact me and I can recommend a very good one if you need a recommendation.

Ok, FMA... As I've said before only YOU can help yourself by admitting you need help.

Here are a few facts:

You CAN NOT force people to like you. You can either accept that and move on with your life, or wallow in self pity - You decide.

I do not need to hear from Anita to visibly see how psychotic you are acting right now.

This is not me calling you a bad person, this is not me passing judgement on you as a person, but the literal definition of psychotic is when a person loses touch with reality and right now you've lost touch with reality thinking that you can force people to like you, or that you think it's acceptable to be stalking someone when they don't want to talk to you.

Please, stop talking in behalf of everyone. You make yourself look like one of those crappy politicians who says the people wants this and wants that as if the entire population’s interests were all the same. You know very well how to resolve this, but you keep preferring ways that won’t work. If she talks to me, everyone will be relieved that my life won’t be put in risk. This is why I say: whoever who really wants to help me, get in contact with her and ask her to talk to me; it’s very simple.

This is selfish and psychotic.

You are publically asking us to harass and stalk Anita on your behalf because she won't talk to you.

You are acting like a spoiled teenager who keeps threatning to run away from home and quite frankly that's your problem not ours.

If you want REAL help, we are willing to help, but I hope that nobody here actually helps you stalk another human being, as a matter of fact I strongly recommend that your profile be monitored for their safety.

If writing an opinion on a public forum is seen as 'moaning' (as you politely described), that's also okay.

Actually, yes, writing an opinion that is negative showing you don't like something is actually a definition of moaning. When you make a sort of subtle complaint about something you're not a fan of.

For those who may be interested, moaning is also a sound people make and it can be either a good moan, a bad moan, a lazy moan, etc...

If I were to guess, the reason why we call making negative opinions moaning as well is because just like an actual moan, you're making an unpleasant sound to others with your voice.

We all do it from time to time lol.